Anxiety

Do you have lots of days where there is too much to do, not enough time, and worry you let people down?  How about many days where life doesn’t look like you think it should so you worry about the future?  Maybe you spend a lot of time thinking of the past, upset with decisions you made?  You don’t want to keep making mistakes so decision making is scary and hard.

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Maybe you tried fixing the things above by making lists or stopping things you enjoy to make more time for everything else.  Perhaps you ignore how tired you are but at night watch lots of TV, eat lots, and drink alcohol to help you relax.  

If this sounds like you, things can change.  You can learn new and better ways of navigating areas of life where you want to see change. 

Through Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Dialetical Behavior Therapy (DBT), Self-Relations Therapy and other therapeutic approaches, I can help you with this. 

Some of the benefits of our time together may be:

A deeper understanding of self and behavior patterns

Liking yourself more

Improved relationships with others

Freedom from shame, self-blame, and worry

Knowing your needs, emotions, and boundaries

Increased ability to reach your goals 

For more information, feel free to contact me or book an appointment or complimentary 20 minute phone consultation today.

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Relationships

Every day connections between ourselves, other people, and organizations happen.  These connections may result in relationships.  Relationships with husbands, wives, significant others, parents, siblings, extended family, friends, bosses, coworkers, businesses, churches, charities, animals etc.  Some of these relationships are easy, fun, and meaningful.  Yet, many of us have some relationships that are hard, confusing, and upsetting.  Relationships that don’t look or feel how we think they should, where we give a lot but don’t get much in return, or feel left out.

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If a relationship is hard, confusing or upsetting, we may try to fix it.  For example, we may try to change ourselves or the other person.  We may stop talking to or seeing the people who hurt us.  These ways of coping may help us short term but we may run into these types of relationships again in the future.   

If you would like to heal from past relationships and/or improve current ones, I can help you:

Learn how to talk about your needs, boundaries, and emotions effectively

Learn how to live beyond your feelings

Recognize mistaken beliefs you may have about people and their motives

Learn how to depend on and be more open to others 

Learn how to validate, listen, and be honest with yourself and others

Step back from conflict you might be in

Move past fear and insecurities around relationships

Healing from past relationships and/or improving current ones can be hard.  However, the time and effort you put into changing your relationships will change your life.  If you are ready to build meaningful relationships, have more fun, break unhealthy relationship patterns and much more, feel free to contact me or book an appointment or complimentary 20 minute phone consultation today.

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Boundaries

We all have limits, limits for how late we stay awake, how much we eat, how much time we spend with a person etc.  When we talk about our limits we are really talking about boundaries.  Boundaries may be material, physical, mental, emotional, sexual, or spiritual in nature.  Boundaries help us figure out what we will or will not accept from others in terms of what they say or do to us. 

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We form boundaries based on our beliefs, attitudes, past experiences, and social learning.  It is common for people to struggle with knowing and talking about boundaries.  There are reasons for this.  Maybe trying to set boundaries with your family leads to people getting mad or ignoring or laughing at you.  Maybe work wants you to do certain things.  When you share concerns about these things, you are dismissed.  Maybe you worry that if you don’t do what people ask or tell you, you will lose something.  You worry you will lose a friend, a job, a position, income, a family member, a pet, or your reputation.

If the examples above sound like you and your life, it makes sense that you say yes to requests.  If you don’t you might lose something.  It makes sense that you are not sure what to think, feel, or believe at times or feel stressed and tired.  Things can change.  

Together, we can explore and identify your boundaries.  You can learn how to talk about your boundaries and what to do when they are not respected.  We can look at your gifts and identify the boundaries in them.  We can look at what is a healthy relationship/situation and what’s not.   

If you want more clarity in your life and to know yourself better, I encourage you to contact me or book an appointment or complimentary 20 minute phone consultation today. Learning about boundaries and how to set them will change your life.  The confidence, joy, and empowerment that comes from knowing and setting boundaries will make our time together worth it.  

“You are not required to set yourself on fire to keep other people warm”                ~Unknown

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Depression

Depression is a common and serious condition that affects how you feel, think, and act.  Symptoms can vary from mild to severe and can look different for everyone.  If you are often tired, your sleep has changed, you feel sad a lot of the time, and it’s hard to do tasks, you may have depression.  Depression can make you question the point of life, think things never change and that something is wrong with you.

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Depression is treatable and we can look at if you have depression.  If so, finding a way out of depression and back into your life is possible.  A life of understanding your mental health, having new coping tools for stress, and more confidence in your skills.  We can do this through techniques from Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Dialetical Behavioral Therapy, Solution-Focused Therapy and Narrative Therapy.  Information on these therapeutic approaches is here.

If you want help for depression, I encourage you to contact me or book an appointment or complimentary 20 minute phone consultation today.  I am excited to see you feel happy, stronger, empowered and hopeful during and after our work together.  

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Life and Cultural Transitions

There are many aspects of life we don’t have control over.  Life and cultural transitions can leave us feeling out of control, scared, and stuck.  However, we have choices in how we respond to these transitions. Life and/or cultural transitions to do with moving, work, traveling, school, aging, relationship changes, parenthood, death, break ups and more can be hard.  You don’t have to go through these transitions alone.  Support through transitions can be helpful.  Particularly when you feel that life has been turned upside down, you don’t fit in, and the transition is not what you expected.  This is where I come in.

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When it comes to life and cultural transitions, I can:

• Walk with you through the transition, giving you support and guidance

• Help you build new routines 

• Talk with you about high and low context cultures and how culture can impact transitions

• Help you with emotions that arise from the transition

Identify your strengths and how they can help you in the transition

• Help you build relationships and a support network

• Help you accept the transition 

Feeling lost, scared, and lonely because of a life or cultural transition is hard. 

It is okay to ask for and want help through a transition. If you are experiencing a challenging transition, I encourage you to contact me or book an appointment or complimentary 20 minute phone consultation today.  We can navigate your transition with peace and clarity.   

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Personal Growth

Personal growth is a lifelong process.  There are times in our lives when our growth is steady, exciting, and intentional.  Then there are times when things don’t seem to change.  We put effort into an area of our lives but don’t see the results we want.  This can be discouraging.  The good news is you don’t have to stay stuck.

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You can create a meaningful and intentional life by improving your behaviors, thoughts, and reactions.  Personal growth involves motivation, a desire to improve, and willingness to change.  It may be uncomfortable but you and others will benefit from the changes you make.  

Do you want to feel good about yourself and your life, contribute more in society, meet your goals, and see the choices you have in situations?  If so, then counselling for personal growth may work for you.

If you would like more information about this, feel free to contact me or book an appointment or complimentary 20 minute phone consultation today.

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"I look forward to walking with you in your journey towards a life that is purposeful, healthy, and joyful."